Coping with my mother’s hoarding problem has not only put me in a significant amount of debt but has also taken a toll on my own mental health. At 74 years old, my mother has struggled with letting go of things, leading to a worsening hoarding habit over the years. Despite my efforts to clear and clean her house a couple of years ago, the hoarding has returned with a vengeance. The situation has become dangerous, as her hoard has prevented access to medical professionals during her illness. The cost of storing her belongings has become unsustainable for me, and I find myself at the end of my tether.
While my husband suggests getting rid of everything, I am hesitant to do so because of the emotional attachment my mother has to her possessions. However, it is clear that she needs professional help. Extreme hoarding can be a sign of depression, and it is possible that she is no longer capable of taking care of herself properly. I have decided to seek a care assessment for her to ensure she receives the support she needs.
In the meantime, I am also acknowledging the toll this situation has taken on my own well-being. I plan to consult with my GP for mental health support and discuss the financial strain caused by the storage fees with my mother. I will give her a month or two’s notice to clear out her belongings, after which I will no longer be able to cover the costs. It is essential to set boundaries and prioritize my own mental and financial stability.
Hoarding is a compulsive behavior characterized by the excessive acquisition and inability to discard or let go of possessions, resulting in cluttered living spaces. It is often accompanied by emotional attachment to objects and a fear of throwing things away.